Break Free from Self-Imposed Boundaries and Unlock Your Limitless Potential Within
In this article we will discuss how to break your self-imposed boundaries and create limitlessness in your life.
Is your life defined by others?
This reminds me of the story of Jim Quick, a recognized world-class expert in memory improvement, brain optimization, and rapid learning, a brain coach, and the author of the book “Infinite Possibilities.”
An accident happened in kindergarten when he was young, which changed Jim Quick’s fate. His brain was severely damaged and he could no longer concentrate and his memory deteriorated, making school an ordeal for him.
He was labeled as having a “bad brain” and became the target of bullying and teasing.
Jim Quick has improved his mental level through original learning methods and taught his experience to more and more people.
Many of the world’s elites have benefited from his methods, including Tesla CEO Elon Musk, Google founder Sergey Brin, Virgin Group founder Richard Branson, and Paramount Pictures Industry Chairman Jim Gianlopoulos…
Do you think you can’t do it? Do you feel bad about yourself? Do you feel like you can’t move? That’s because you haven’t met your soulmate.
A confidant is the person who knows us best and understands us best. In the vast sea of people, we seem to have been looking for such a person, who can make peace with each other.
In the process of seeking help from others, we become more and more confused and disappointed. In fact, your confidence is within yourself. If you know yourself, you will become your confidant, because through self-exploration, the one who knows you best and understands you best is not others, but yourself.
Follow experienced people to open the door to self-exploration, and you may also get a glimpse of the infinite possibilities of yourself. There’s no amount of investment you can make in understanding yourself.
What are you limited and bound by?
Relationship attrition
- Some relationships can bring us energy, which we call “recharging relationships,” while others drain us, which we call “draining relationships.”
- If you are in a relationship that often makes you feel drained, emotionally or physically exhausted, or if staying in the relationship makes you feel miserable, you may be in a draining relationship.
- The law of conservation of energy also applies in relationships. If one party keeps giving without getting anything in return, the self will feel a sense of exhaustion.
- Another situation is the desire for recognition, that is, basing one’s self-worth on the recognition of others. All attention or energy is invested in others. Every look or expression of others may lead us into some kind of uncomfortable situation.
- Your efforts are all for the recognition of others, and they are all done for others to see. Isn’t it tiring to think about it?
Self-depletion
- Some people have so much inner drama that they direct and act in a one-man show, such as having a crush on a girl and imagining various rejection scenarios, but in the end, they don’t dare to come forward and confess. As a result, he spent years falling into imaginary relationships without ever embarking on a real relationship.
- Some people always look forward and backward when doing things and have no decisiveness. Even if the opportunity is right in front of him, almost at his fingertips, he is still hesitant, and eager to succeed but also afraid of success.
- As long as you don’t do it, you maintain continuity. The reason why you are unwilling to take a step forward is not only because you are unable to let go of your previous life state, but also because you are afraid of success, because success means saying goodbye to your past self.
- Self-consumption is like a snail, dragging a heavy burden, crawling slowly. Sometimes you stick your head out to look at the scenery outside, which makes you feel envious, but this scenery has nothing to do with you, so you shrink back again. Without internal friction, you may be relieved of your heavy burdens and be able to run freely.
Rigid model
- Each of us acquires a set of strategies for coping with the world as we grow up, and the more rigid this model is, the more we are restricted in our cage.
- For example, social rules hold that women cannot be too strong, and women must get married, otherwise they will be monsters. After the stereotyped requirements for women were internalized, a 30-year-old female doctor married for the sake of marriage when she met someone she didn’t like. She didn’t feel that she had a chance to meet someone better. Even choosing to be single is a way to make yourself happy.
- Rigid patterns are sometimes like trying to find a sword in the sea. Times have changed, but you still stick to that survival strategy.
- For example, when I was a child, I had to swallow my anger to avoid being beaten. When I grew up, no matter how wrong I was or how unfair I felt, I dared not speak up for myself; I always felt inferior in relationships and always pleased others, whether it was my parents or my brothers. Relationships with sisters, friends, colleagues, and partners are all established in a flattering way.
How can we live freely and create the infinity within?
There is a certain inner necessity to freedom and infinity. The inner space is infinite, so you will not be constrained and will feel comfortable. In psychology, we always talk about contradictions, conflicts, and integration. It is the process of finding unity in a larger space.
For example, if you are urged to get married by your family, you will be entangled in whether you should get married or not, and whether you should obey your parents’ wishes.
If you are infinite inside, have an independent self, and have a clear sense of boundaries, you may have the courage to tell your parents that you understand their anxiety, but this is your own business, and you will live the life you want. In other words, this current state is what I want.
On the other hand, you are no longer obsessed with getting married. You are willing to wait for fate to come, but you will not get married for the sake of getting married before you meet your true lifelong partner.
The root of inner infinity is that you understand yourself and know what you want.
Fix emotions
- To have high emotional intelligence, you must first have a very in-depth understanding and awareness of your emotional system, and then try to regulate and control your emotional system.
- The sign of a person’s maturity is having complex emotions, and this complex emotion is actually composed of emotional clusters.
- For example, what is behind the troubles? Imagine you are going through this experience. Is there any shame behind it? Afraid? Angry? Have anxiety? Then analyze specifically what you are afraid of and what you are anxious about. This is the process of in-depth understanding and analysis.
- When these complex emotions are identified, analyzed, and embodied, you can try to find ways to deal with them.
- You can make a list of the things that scare you now, find resources, find countermeasures, accept the parts that cannot be changed, start changing the parts that can be changed, and make an action plan. You see, your troubles may be successfully resolved by you.
looking for value
- Chinese parents are always afraid of their children being proud, so they are used to suppressing and belittling them in their education model, which makes their children feel worthless no matter how hard they work.
- If a child’s sense of self-worth is based on the approval of his parents when he is young, and he will pursue the approval of others when he grows up, then finding his value becomes an extremely difficult issue.
- We can gradually tear down these four mountains by finding exceptions.
- For example, for “I am useless”: You completed the project report yesterday and was recognized by colleagues and leaders; you accompanied your good friend through the first day of the breakup, and your friend was grateful to you; you bought something for your mother A new dress, my mother likes it very much…
- There must be many such little things in your life that are worthy of recognition. You might as well record them one by one. Over a year, even if there is only one achievement event every day, you can accumulate 365 events in a year. That is amazing.
- Who says you are worthless? Your footprints prove that every day you live is valuable.
- Through such records, you will find a lovable and kind self, you will fall in love with yourself, and then you will have the ability to build trust with others and the world.
Face your true self
- There is such a thought experiment, what will happen if you tear off all the labels you have previously attached to yourself, take off all your masks, and remove all your defenses? Was fear the first thing you felt?
- So it takes courage to face your true self. But when you understand your true self, you have the ability to choose, which means your personality will become more flexible.
- In a relationship where you feel safe and trusting, such as in front of your counselor, you can show your true self, and you will find that the imperfect parts of yourself that you thought were shameful are acceptable.
- You can wear different personas and play different roles on different occasions, but you know what kind of person you are and what you are doing.
If you want to expand your inner spiritual space, if you want to create infinite possibilities, then start by understanding yourself and be your own confidant, and you will gain infinite power from self-growth.